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Adoption and family separation impact people differently. No matter what your experience is, our lived experience-led team is here for you.

If you were adopted, not knowing where you come from, or feeling like others don’t quite get it, can be exhausting. We can help you search for family, make sense of your life journey, and connect with people who understand.

If you’re a mother or father separated from a child through adoption, you may have carried this silently for decades. We can help you understand your options and take things at whatever pace feels right.

If someone you care about is adopted, you might want to better understand and support the person you love, but not quite know where to start. We can help with that too.

We can also provide information and advice to donor-conceived people and care leavers. Get in touch to find out more.

Personal stories

The questions I can’t quite answer

Intercountry adoptee Lakshmi Cashmore writes about the questions she can’t quite answer — and what it means to build a life from them anyway.

Speak up! Personal reflections of a professional helper

Adoptee Cheyne Bull reflects on how their lived experience has shaped their work in social services and how speaking openly about adoption supports one’s own healing.

Facing adoption head on

Adoptee Chris reflects on what he gained from attending the VANISH peer support groups.

From the streets of Kolkata to a new life in Australia

Mousumi’s adoption from India to Australia was supposed to be a happy ending, but instead, it marked the beginning of new struggles.

Jo’s search and reunion

After more than two years of searching, adoptee Jo was able to reconnect with her mother after more than 50 years apart.

Storytelling: Adoption, from the perspective of an adoptee

“Adoption, from the perspective of an adoptee”

I am still searching for my identity as it was lost at birth.

Oral History: Giving a Public Voice to Adult Adoptees

“Infans VOIC’D”

Based on real stories of adult adoptees, this powerful audio-drama gives voice to the lifelong impact of closed-records adoption in Australia.

Storytelling: The Events

“The Events”

I don’t have any recollection of actually being told that I was adopted. I have always known. We had a book called “Don’t tell me about Goldilocks”

Storytelling: The Silence Between Us

“It’s hard to tell a story when half of it is missing.
When it’s more question than answer, more echo than voice…”

Storytelling: A complete story

“A Complete Story”

The meditative lapping of sea water against the ribs of my shiny little, walnut shaped boat, are rhythmic, soothing, calming.

Latest news and events

Search Service

“I would like to thank you for your care and compassion in assisting me with my search.  Your professionalism and sincerity has made the difficult situation of learning about my mother’s short life and tragic death an easier process to deal with.”

Search Service

“I cannot imagine what my difficult search and reunion would have been like without Charlotte and the team from VANISH.”

About our staff

“I would just like to say thank you for all the kindness and support Tracey showed me yesterday. Her listening skills and understanding meant a lot to me.”

About our staff

“The staff were professional, caring and compassionate.”

About our staff

“I really found Patricia (my ‘case manager’) to be amazing and feel lucky to have had her on my journey.”

Support Groups

“Being around other people who understand your experience and can voice their own is just so incredibly powerful. I feel so very grateful to the VANISH adoptee support group.”

Advocacy

“Thank you for your ongoing high standard of service provision and advocacy on behalf of the adoption community – especially the adoptee community.”

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Contact us to find out more about our services or discuss how we can best support you.