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Support Groups Frequenly Asked Questions

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Q. I am not sure if the group is right for me. What should I do?

If you are uncertain for whatever reason, please give us a call and we can describe what the group is like and this may help you decide if you want to come or not.


Q. I can’t get to the group until 8pm would that be OK?

We prefer that everyone comes on time so as not to miss the introductions, but we also prefer you come than not come! So if you are going to be late, please let us know in advance and we can mention it to the other participants at the beginning.


Q. Am I expected to pay?

No. The support groups are a free service provided by VANISH. If you would like to contribute you are welcome to bring some biscuits or a snack to share.


Q. Is there easy parking near the VANISH offices?

Yes, there are plenty of metered and some unmetered spaces on Howard Street. Check restrictions when you park.


Q. I am a mother who whose child was adopted. Which group would be best for me?

The mixed group is open to all individuals with an adoption experience. Mothers are welcome to attend.


Q. Are fathers welcome to the group?

The mixed group is open to all individuals with an adoption experience. Fathers are welcome to attend.


Q. I am nervous and would like to bring a friend with me to support me?

The groups are meant to be for individuals with an adoption experience only, or in the case of the adoptee group, for adoptees only. If you want to bring someone, please let us know in advance and we will discuss this with you. We always ask the permission of the group and respect their wishes.


Q. I would like to help organise a support group for people like me. What do I need to do?

Please discuss your ideas with your contact at VANISH or call Gail on 03 9328 8611. 


Q. I am an adoptive parent, which group can I join for support?

The mixed group is open to all individuals with an adoption experience. Adoptive parents are welcome to attend.


Q. I haven’t decided yet whether I want to search so would the group still be suitable for me?

The groups are not just for those who are searching or who have searched, they are to support any individual who would like to talk about or explore their own adoption experience.


Q. I really need help with my family relationships – is the group for me?

You are likely to gain some ideas and insights from attending a group and you may feel better having voiced your situation, but the support groups do not attempt to act as a substitute for personal counselling.  If you are not sure please do not hesitate to call us.